but the thoughts on here ARE hers!)
femme". I briefly touched on this issue on the first of my 'bio' pages, but felt I had not completely explained J's thoughts on
this. I asked J to put some thoughts down on paper concerning my dressing. The following is the first of those thoughts.
to marry him, he told me he was a transvestite and explained that he liked the feeling of the soft feminine lingerie against him
skin. I think he was rather shocked that I didn't "freak out" and run for the hills. Instead I started counting the days until our
marriage.
surprised. I then bought patterns and made him a white wrap-around dress, a turquoise colored long skirt with side slits, and a
"hobble" skirt (all of which he still wears). The "hobble" skirt was a lot of fun to make. Needless to say, there sure weren't any
patterns available for such an item. I ended up making two waistbands and used one of them in lieu of the hem. It worked out a
lot better than I had imagined. Once I started working full time outside the home I no longer had the time to make things for him.
Instead I would accompany him to thrift stores to find dresses, blouses, and skirts. From there it has progressed to going to
regular stores with him and helping him pick out items for his wardrobe. I can't help but tease him about having a better and
LARGER feminine wardrobe than I do!!! I'm strictly a jeans person. When I do wear a dress I shock everyone we know ,
especially "Elita"."
came along much later), J never jumped back and said, "Help! Get me out of here!" She asked a lot of questions and read what
little literature I had on the subject at the time.
person. If that included a desire on my part to dress occasionally in the clothes of the opposite gender, so be it!
For her I think it was a chance to share her femininity with me. Before my children came to live with us, we would role-play,
using the outfits she had made for both of us. These are moments we have both spoke of and thought about a lot over he
ensuing years.
As we lying in bed one evening, her in 'birthday suit' and me in the lovely nightie she had made me, the thought came to both of
us at the about the same time......here lies the tomboy and the sissy! I think that very adequately describes the differences in our
relationship.
the flute and piccolo in High School Band to Rainbow Girls. But she also had shown an interest in more male activities such as
fishing and cars even back then. She was married twice before marrying me (more on this in a bit), raising two children and
working in a variety of traditional female positions. But her one real desire was to work in Law Enforcement, not in a clerical
position, or as a dispatcher (which has done), but as a street officer.
officer, in a part of the country where a female officer was still a rarity, even in the mid-80's to mid-90's. She was successful
enough in this role to take the place of regular officers when needed and was responsible for a major portion of our
communities emergency weather operation.
her regular employment and her law enforcement activities. We moved back to her roots, allowing her to be near her son and
long-time friends. Here, she has pursued several of her long-time interests, especially fishing and following the NASCAR
races. Where I share an interest in both of these activities, J is absolutely passionate about both. And she is definitely a damn
good 'fisherman'.
But this lady is not one to fit the 'norms'. And I love her dearly!
husband tried to choke her out while she was at her workplace. I was one of the officers that responded to the call for help and it
took everything in me from doing more than restraining him at that moment. I had known J for quite a while before that call and
we were good friends at the time. It was long after that incident that our relationship changed and we eventually married.
my BDSM activities. In her words....."I find it very hard to imagine myself "punishing" someone I worship as my hero, someone
who has always shown strength and masculinity. If nothing else, because of what you have done for me, I feel very protective of
you".
prepare for the trips, even assisting with my body shaves and getting my clothes packed. When I return, she'll have questions
about what I've been up to and inspect my body for any serious damage. But she has only once expressed concern over my
activities and that time was well deserving of her concern. She will chat with my scene friends on line and has talked to a few on
the phone, but has never tried to control who I see or play with. She has made some observations about specific persons that
have proved true and when that has happened, we have sat and discussed her concerns. But the choices were always still left
to me. It's her trust in me that keeps me on the straight and narrow actually!
the work on the photos I use on this web site. Quite honestly, this web site would not exist without her support and help! And
she occasionally makes a suggestion for an outfit or how to spice up my look that really adds to my appearance and fun.
think of all this"!