An introduction to -                                      ELITA

My motto “Just a Girl Having Fun” says it all!

I am a very happy middle aged Cross Dresser, finding that the feminine side of life is absolutely wonderful.    Through my journey I have found happiness in being able to express that femme side and to let a little of the “kinkiness” in my out too.  I can be a mature lady, comfortable in most settings.  But I am also a service oriented submissive, with “scene” (defined as BDSM, D&s Fetishism, etc.) interests ranging from heavy play to being a dainty sissy maid.

I have been drawn to the "femme" side of life for as long as I can remember in varying degree and intensity.   Due to career and family demands, I really wasn't in a position to express my "femme" interests except very privately until I "retired" from my first career several years ago.  At that point in my life I decided I needed to see where my feminine interests would lead me.  At about that same time I found I was also interested in submission and BDSM.    With that began a journey that has taken me from discussing "femme" and kinky fantasies in various chat rooms and on a few BBS's, to going around some of the major cities in our country dressed in full "femme" attire. It has been a very interesting and educational time.

Through the help and efforts of two special Ladies, I have found many ways to incorporate my special interests (Cross-dressing and BDSM) and dual-personas into my play while maintaining the allure of femininity. With the help of my loving and supportive wife/owner, Ms J, I have over the past several years incorporated aspects of both my male and femme lives into a complete “package”.  And as time has gone on, she has become more accepting of my scene interests, even allowing me to "serve" her without her having to be a "the dominant".   (Ms. J’s thoughts on this can be found here.)

For several years, my friend, and for a time my Mistress, Ms. Lash of Chicago played a very important role in helping me fine-tune my femme image.  Her loving support and direction contributed greatly to the lady you see today as “Elita”.  We have gone separate paths now, but I will always be thankful to her.

Many others have had a major affect on me through their friendship,   guidance and by the example of their lives.   Not to offend anyone by omitting anyone, I will not try to list them all here.  They know who they are and I am sure are mentioned at least once or twice within this web site. My sincere thanks go out to these special folks that have helped me become the "lady" I am today.

As time has gone on, I have begun to repay the courtesies shown to me during my learning journey.  I have become a willing mentor for other girls struggling with the same issues I dealt with entering the “scene” and learning to understand my need to feminine  by helping other 'girls" starting out in their search for their "femme" selves, or by sharing ideas and information with some of the more experienced "girls".   I am active presenter of TG 101, Cross-dressing and the Scene, and Transformation seminars throughout the mid- west.  (See a listing of my description of my seminars)

I am a member of St Louis Leather & Lace, the National Leather Association’s Indianapolis Chapter, and I am the Event Security Director for the Great Lakes Leather Alliance event weekend held in Indy each August.   I am also a moderator for the Sissyland Yahoo group, as well as the owner of the Yahoo Group, Crossdressing and the Scene.   I am also an active of a number of support groups for cross dressers not affiliated with the scene.

More of my journey and my thoughts can be found in my writings, found elsewhere in this site.